Category: the Rant Board
OK I am a pretty reasonable person, two people i care very deeply about one more than the other have blocked me on the zone without any reasoning.
Tonight I just said hi to a very good friend and next thing i know im blocked i do not get it I've know him for 3 years ever since I've had the zone. I don't get it maybe someone can help me out
it might have been an accidental block. it can happen if somebody accidently hits the ignore link without realizing it.
get over it, just because you think there is no reason, doesn't mean the other person doesn't have one.
Cold man you are.
Yes its easy to hit that damn button. I agree give a reason. its just as annoying when you send someone a qn and they don't respond at least say I don't chat.
yeah....hate people that block me with out a reason to. you at least should be warned...
I agree with post three. Just let it go.
that is easy for you to say becasue I have known this person for three years and HE Has NEVER once ignored me in fact, he always talked to me. So it's kinda shocking for ME to have this happen because we have been really close. I have NO Idea what set him off or why he blocked me so I cannot let it go because of how close we are. So I am praying that it was an accident.
tell someone who cares
like their psychyatrist?
My advice is to not get involved with someone so deeply on the internet. I still can't fathom how someone can get so attached to someone they talked to online and have never met face to face. I know that doesn't help much here, but along those same lines of thinking, why not go make some real friends instead of virtual ones? I'm assuming this guy is just someone you talk to online, and that will happen. So, it's just best not to get involved with online stuff emotionally. 90% of the people I know who get really involved with people emotionally, sexually, or both with a virtual friend, have this happen to them. There is a world outside of your computer, and more people need to remember that it exists.
Wow, who says the matrix doesn't exist. We have it here.
Hi, i think that you should find out the reason behind you being blocked. It's no fun being blocked, especially if you have been friends for a few years. Take no notice of some of the above posts, but i understand why you want to find out why you were blocked.
I agree with those who say get over it. I'm sorry but this is the internet folks.
If you get attached that easily...then perhaps you need to step back from the zone.
I accept with Post number 11. It's different to meet someone only online or to meet face by face. I can't imagine to be as attached to someone who I only met online ss to a friend, I met face to face.
Fuck all of the people that are online. They are all mostly fake and you should never trust any person that is online. It is almost garunteed that you will find only good people out there in the real world.
So, dry your tears, go outside and find someone who is real, someone that aren't fake like 100% of people that are online.
have any of you considered that they may know each other in person? or are you just focusing on the "online" part of it all. think about it
I've had this very same thing happen to me, and I know how it feels, believe me! Folks, its not something one can just get over! Some people on here are so cold! To the orginal sender of this message, what I'm trying to say is I've been in the same position you're in, so I know all to well what its like.
People who block me on some on-line forum owe me no explanation. Hitting the "off" button is their right, as it is mine.
I'm fake am I? Nice to know that I don't exist, since I am online.
I'm fake? Fuck you, whoever you are...
100 percent of us are fake? Well then I guess you're fake as well.
You really should watch your statements/assumptions as they are capable of biting you in the ass.
thank u for saying that.
To the original poster, have you tried contacting the people in question through a friendly email? Asking a bunch of strangers isn't going to give you an answer!
And I am *not* fake, thanks ever so much. While I know it's good to be cautious about people one encounters online, I don't think going to extremes and assuming everyone is bad or insincere is necessary.
I'm glad for those of you who find it a piece of cake to step outside your door and instantly find friends, but it doesn't happen as easily for everyone. Online acquaintances are acceptable alternatives; a few online friendships have progressed offline, for me. The jaded attitude of some here on this subject is probably why it's been tough to meet real friends from this site, which is disappointing.
I was talking to someone here I won't say the name, but they asked me if i was interested in tarot cards and empowerment, i said no and they just ignored me. I'm like ok?
margorp you know sometimes you can come off as a real complete asshole! And even though I've met you in person you don't seem what you are all cracked up to be. Telling someone to get "Over it?" you do not know if they had met in person or whatever. You do not just "get over shit like that." Why don't you grow the fuck up and understand people got fucking feelings. Hugs cat. Just find out what you have done. it is a possible mistake on the other's part parhaps. i mean perhaps. sorry this has gotten me a little teed off that some of you can be so cold or at least portray yourselves as such.
The problem is, too often when you ask/tell someone to leave you alone, they don't. They whine about it, demand to know why, try to argue with you over it, etc. So it is far easier to just ignore them. As others have said, anyone has the right to hit the ignore button on here without an explanation as to why it was done. I think too many people take being ignored far too personally.
oh, I'm an ass hole am I?
Well isn't that something!
If I want to block somebody I can, and whether or not I provide an explanation as to why I blocked them is up to me. Nobody is entitled to an explanation, and nobody is entitled not to be blocked.
I think that those who oppose my freedom to block who I wish to block, and my freedom to refuse to provide explanations should be blocked by all lovers of freedom!
well said senior!
Um, should be blocked, by all freedom lovers? That's pretty stupid.
But to the actual topic, It's been months from the post so If nothings already happened, don't expect it to.
I'll block who I want, when I want, how I want, and for whatever reasons I want!!! lol
Good for you rofl...and if they don't like it...well that's life.
damn straight!!!!!
Well said, SisterDawn. There have been a few instances where I have asked certain people to stop doing something, or leave me alone, or whatever the case is...Anyway, my point is, I believe that you should honestly ask the person to stop doing whatever they're doing that makes you want to block them, but if they don't do that, then go ahead and use the block feature. But if someone has a problem with you, and they don't tell you why, then how are you supposed to fix the problem in the future? I actually have a friend who got on my last nerves when we first started talking, and now we're really good friends. By the way, for the poster who said that one hundred percent of people online are fake, well, that would include you then, just in case you didn't know.
On the contrary, however, there are some people whose personalities just annoy you, but obviously, you wouldn't want to tell them that, because something like that is totally opinion-based. In that case, then I agree with silently blocking them, because there really is no other choice, unless you want to tell them you don't like their personality. I've talked to some people who have a seriously low self-image. That drives me insane, but telling them that would make it worse, so, in that case, I would block them without a word.
I agree that nobody really owes any of us an explanation why they block you or delete you from contacts or whatnot. I do not like everybody or get along with everybody and I expect not everybody likes or gets along with me. It's just life, I guess. Yes, I do think it's polite to explain, but sometimes hte explanation is not easy or might be more hurtful than just blocking or whatever. But honestly it's not a thing I get upset over too much.
Yes, I am the last person you’d call fake, I hate fake people, and I’d had an online boyfriend. I understand both sides as I disconnected a relationship myself.
I liked this guy named Michael, because Michael liked philosophy and metaphysics too. So, we e-mailed each other for a while. First he asked me advice and then we started liking each other. I mean, going as far as calling each other pet names. It was three days later, not three years, though. Then, I realized the little flaw in our relationship. We stood on completely different sides of the political spectrum. I was a republican capitalist, and he a socialistic democrat. We disconnected, but I did explain my reasoning.
If it’s not too late, I would post somewhere he regularly posts at and slip in that question of why he disconnected.
Yes, I hate people who block or ignore someone else without a reason too, but I wouldn’t agree on the quicknotes. I have probably ignored a few people, because those damn notes do disappear. No, I didn’t want to ignore them, but I simply didn’t see it.
Eh, I should be blocked now, just because I love reason and logic? I think you are the one who doesn’t love freedom. I think one should have reasons to do something. It doesn’t take that much to write out a reason for ignoring someone and then pressing the ignore button.
I agree with Rachel. I can see both sides. It ultimately comes down to whether you value an online friend in the same way in which you value a friend you meet in person. I do, and so I would be taken aback if an online friend blocked me without a reason just as much as if a friend I know in person inexplicably wanted nothing more to do with me.
However, while a part of me would always be moderately curious of the reason, I wouldn't be sad about it and wallow in the sadness. After all, it's their loss. Haha.
Namaste,
Becky
I agree with both posts 23 and 25,, and will say no more here. It's very disappointing how cold some people can be.
Now as for ignoring people, I personally do ignore people without reasons, but those are only people who get on my last nerve! And normally that would be people who are flirtatious and things like that, because that's something I have a very low tolerance for now-a-days! Also i have had people put me on ignore by accident! In fact, one person who did that, I wondered for the longest why, because I didn't do anything wrong to her. Well, i didn't cry over it, but it does kind of make you wonder! And so one day, this person told me hi, she didn't even realize she'd had me on ignore all this time! So when I realized that she was trying to talk to me, I told someone else to tell her hi since I was on her ignore list, and when it was brought to her attention, she took me off right away! So it can happen! And now, we are good friends!
And as for online people, they're just like regular people, you're online, does that mean you're fake or cant be trusted?
Hmmm, guess anyone who says that it's what they're trying to say about themselves! Remember, it's like my grandma says: it takes one to know one!
So now, I am going to put picapiedra on ignore.
Because he is one annoying asshole!
i do ignore people, but mainly it's because they either ask a stupid question, repeat them selves, or i plainly just don't like them
Lmao to post 41! That made me laugh!
But anyway...
I agree with Jessica mostly-- I mean, there's just some people that start talking to you, and they act like your there person to whine at, and though I'm not the nicest person around, I wouldn't like to just tell them "Leave me alone! It's your fucking problem!" or something like that.
I give them some time to get over there selves, and if they don't, then I put them on ignore.
Personally, I hate putting people on ignore; I just don't like to for some reason, but I do if I have to.
As for people putting me on ignore, I used to care a lot, but now, I really don't give a care.
One more thing, how did boyfriends and online people get into this conversation?
(gosh this is turning into a long post...).
I don't get why some people on here said that online people are fake. I don't blame you if all those news stories (all that stuff about people that met online, meet in person, and one person rapes the other or something), but not all people are like that.
Okay! My make-no-sense post is over! :).
Okay... let me clear that up, I don't blame a person if all those news stories makes them believe something like that, but not all online people are like that.
Okay, I hope that made more sense.
K kiddies I'm about to sound like somebody's father ... Scott and Margorp and similar aside because they all make sense:
But you can never expect to find out why someone ignores you. The ignore function of any web site be it here or Facebook or wherever is all about the ignorer and the ignoree.
If you want to ignore someone including me or anyone, the ignored party does not need a reason given. This is one defensive maneuver people especially young and especially girls have against being harrassed online.
I know you can look to see who's ignoring you, but I personally never have had occasion. I imagine we all have people who ignore us for one reason or another. Anyone can and should ignore with total immunity. Ignore is a user's real defense online, and especially for some timid waif, it's unfair to say they have to face the other party and say why they're ignoring. I'ts not a trial, and there are no real consequences. If I ignore some people in the family tree on Facebook, for example, because for them it's all about furry things / forwarded stuff / inspiration emails, that's nothing personal. For all I know, they could be ignoring some of us who put up wall posts making fun of all that stuff. Ignore is just a function.
Could you imagine the ignore feature having a subject edit box, and a message edit box? That would be....interesting.
I know that some people I would like to block would lash out, and/or start a bunch of drama if I explained my reasons before blocking them, so in those cases, and those cases only, I personally feel that I am saving myself and that person a lot of trouble by just silently blocking them. However, I feel that if a person has showed the upmost respect, it would only be fair for you to provide an explanation in those cases, particularly if the reason isn't personal. I can't think of any instances where that has happened to me, but I know some people who have been through that.
I'm sure I get ignored...I can be a real pain in the ass at times. Lol!
I'm sure there are several people who could name at least one or two annoying things about me. Lol. I don't mind. Normally it doesn't get as extreme as blocking.
And if it does...life goes on.
For sure. There will always be people who enjoy your company for one reason or another.
Yes, and I can go out in person and talk to them.
Margorp you are in good company here ... we'll have to quit you from cavorting with the young ones on here and get you in with a cigar with us older dogs ... lol
But what I fail to see is how some here have taken ignoring or blocking to be extreme.
I may have the right to free speech, but I don't necessarily have the right to be heard. Meaning anyone on here doesn't like what I post either in manner or content, to block me is within their rights, and frankly how different is that from abruptly ending a conversation and walking away? None of us realy has a right to a captive audience, so block if you want, or just skip posts you don't like ... this isn't a huge deal either here or on Facebook. But even over there I've seen posts on this same issue ... people thinking they're offended because someone blocked their furry FarmVille posts.
you also have the option to not log on in the first place.
There's always that option, but it's nice to be able to do so without wondering if the person you don't want to talk to is going to say something to you again.
Personally I don't care all that much. It's just the internet.
Well, of course, it is meant to be a pass time, not a way of life, so there are definitely more important things in life than who blocks you for what reason, or lack there of, but sometimes friendships can get pretty close, and the possibility of extending this friendship offline comes into consideration. That's when I think it starts to matter somewhat.
Well I was cleaning up winter's damage the other day in my yard, having a pretty good time, clearing up the place, smoking a cigar, enjoying a couple of hawks about 30 feet away engaged in courtship calls / maneuvers.
Apparently, they being PC, got offended and blocked me / flew away. So what site admin can I write to?
I guess if you meet a zoner in real life and they start blocking you you may have a fight on your hands.
Robozork, of course it's true that nobody is required to tell you why they block you. That's why the block feature doesn't have a message edit field attached, but it would still be kind of nice to know why a so-called good friend suddenly blocked you. Maybe you could have done something, or not done something, to prevent that.
In life, we all have things we wish we could take back but you can only move forward...
Okay, but what if you have a characteristic that is particularly annoying to a lot of people. Of course, common sense should come into play somewhat here, but in some cases, how are you going to know that what you are doing is annoying unless someone tells you about it?
Does it matter? I admit that I can be a pain in the ass at times...that's all I need.
When I'm just meeting someone, no, it doesn't. If they're that annoyed with me within the first week, then we probably shouldn't be talking anyway, but if I've known the person for years...
you guys could quite sufficiently have a private discussion about this and still receive the same satisfaction...no?
We just keep responding to each other's posts. that's all.
yes, it's like a game of who gets the last word I guess. Lol!
I win hahahaha
Nope. I do! And don't you dare block me for it! Hahahaha!
Oh no! rofl.
Ha Ha! I win again! Roflmao.
Isn't it strange how old rants are used for games? I win!
Isn't it more fun than ranting though? I win again.
I hope the cl's don't chew us out for going off topic. I win yet again.
Hmm. Maybe I should block the original poster for using shorthand in the topic title? there. We're on topic, and I win again.
okay, I give up...you win. No wait, I do!
hahahahaha
Really? not quite. Blocking you now for thinking of such a thing. Lol...just kidding.
Oh no please don't block me...I will be so sad that I will get on a message board and wine about it!
J K.
O no! We can't have that!
oh...I win!! hello, everyone. *goes back into hiding* lol.
What are you hiding for? Get back here and join the party! Lol.
lol just to be funny. I'm back, though. ha!!